If you are looking for funny stories about kids you might want to skip this post. It's a long serious post! I'm not usually into serious posts, but I really feel like I should share this.
So this post is going to take you back in time- almost 2 years. Almost 2 years ago Travis and I put our house up for sale with the hopes of selling it within no more than 6 months (keep in mind the housing market was still red hot then- especially in Houston). We built our house with the intention of only living here for a couple of years and then selling it to make a profit (Travis is a builder if you didn't know.) Little did we know that almost 2 years later our house would still be on the market and that we would witness several friends sell their homes during that time- some in a matter of days. We had glimmers of hope here and there of offers and then last year about this time actually accepted an offer that eventually fell through. Before Cooper was born we took it off the market for a couple of months to just be a family and enjoy our sweet boy without the stress of keeping a house clean and ready to show at anytime. At the end of September we put the house back on the market and realized it was a slower market than before, but we were still hopeful.
Fast forward to December 2007. Over Christmas we went to Harlingen which meant we had a 6 hour drive there and back. I decided to read a book that Travis had borrowed from a guy in his bible study. It was Dave Ramsey's "Total Money Makeover". I love all things finance so I really enjoyed the book and loved the principles that he laid out. Travis and I are not really big spenders but we always used the credit card for everything. We would always pay off the bill in full, but definitely would go over our monthly budget pretty much every month. With two kids in diapers and one on formula and baby food it is very easy to do. It was just too easy to slap that credit card down. Well, God used this book to totally transform our family finances. We pay cash for EVERYTHING now and when we are out at the end of the month we are out. What that means for us is that we have to make choices during the month about where we want to spend our money. At the beginning of the month I look at all of our expenses. I allocate money for the mortgage and bills and figure out how much discretionary money we have for the month. After that I figure out what are discretionary money will be spent on. Obviously diapers, wipes, formula, baby food, and groceries are at the top of our list. Then I figure in any gifts or travel expenses we might have for the month. I always have an idea of where our money will be spent during the month. Lastly Travis and I both get some "blow" money that we can do whatever we want with. Some months have been harder than others, but I'm not stressed out when bills are coming in at the end of the month anymore.
Anyway, I knew at the beginning of this year that God was really going to be working on our finances and make sure we were glorifying Him in every way with how we spent our money. When we started putting Dave Ramsey's principles into practice we used most of our savings to pay off Travis' truck and pay off our last credit card bill so we could start in January with cash. We had begun to build our emergency savings account again and were blessed with a significant tax refund to add to the account. We also received some bonuses from Travis' job and had added that to the stash. In March Travis and I started to discuss adding on to our family room in order to help our house sell. In all the feedback we received the main thing was that the family room was too small. Our realtor also thought that this was a good idea so we began getting things ready to add on. The week before we were to have work started on the house we believe that God started testing us. Travis went to church with the boys one Sunday without me (okay the reason was really vein- I had a HUGE fever blister! Travis even said he wouldn't blame me if I didn't go so I knew it was really bad!) Anyway, he came home and I asked him how church was and what the message was about. He said Jeff talked about faith and the story of Abraham. Travis mentioned that all he could think about was the house situation. I told him that I would try and listen to the message on the internet during naptime that week.
Let's just say that message was awesome! It totally convicted me and helped me to realize that we weren't relying on God's provision and we were relying on the "security" we had built up. We were trying to manipulate the situation just like Sarah did in the Bible when she had Abraham sleep with her maid servant to produce his "heir". That was not God's plan for Abraham and Sarah and we believed that we were not trusting God to provide in the same way. You see about the time we put the house on the market we committed a specific amount of money to our church building fund with the intention of using some of the profit to pay on that commitment. That's why we have kept the house on the market so long. Well, God had a different plan. We felt very convicted that He wanted us to use the savings that we were going to use to add on to the house to pay for part of our commitment to the building fund. So we did and we had so much peace about the whole thing. We knew that if God wanted our house to sell he could sell it with the family room just the way it was. And we knew we might have to wait a long time for the house to sell just like Abraham had to wait a long time for his son Isaac to be born. And we also knew that just because we did this didn't mean that God was going to sell the house. Well, I would love to say that the house has sold, but it hasn't- not yet. I believe that God has showed me that He is going to allow the house to sell to provide the money for the rest of our commitment to the building fund. We do have a family that is considering buying the house and so we are trying to be patient and trust God with His perfect plan for our lives.
I was reluctant to post this because I didn't want people to think we always follow everything God tells us to do and our lives are perfect, because we most certainly do not and our lives are far from perfect. We have struggled a lot over this house situation and deciding what to do. I mainly have shared this because I want to remember where we have been and remember what God has done in my life. I'm so thankful that God has used this time to transform our lives. We are also thankful for the huge blessings we have in our lives- healthy children, great marriage, wonderful family and friends. I wouldn't trade that for anything!
Tyler is in the stage where he wants to help with everything, which is nice when it is time to clean up toys at the end of the day. So tonight he decided that he wanted to help me make dinner. I was making some cinnamon apples for a side dish and decided he could help me pour the cinnamon and brown sugar on them. I pulled a chair up beside the counter where I was cutting the apples and let him watch. I think he ate a fourth of the apples I was cutting! Then he helped me pour the rest of the ingredients in. He still wanted to "cook" more when we were done so I let him stir some ingredients around in a bowl. He stayed up there for probably 30 minutes "cooking"! I guess I might have a little chef on my hands.
